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Firstly, it is due to media portrayal and stereotypes. Dr. Christine vacation rentals near galveston texas B. Wheelan, public sociologist, who coined a term for these women SWANS (which stands for Strong Women Achievers, No Spouse) claims that successful women are commonly stereotyped as aggressive and ambitious instead of possessing warmer characteristics such as kindness, creativity, and good parenting skills.
Admittedly, some guys still hold very chauvinistic attitudes. Last year, I was invited to an event as a guest blogger by a very prominent communications agency. I decided to bring a guy I was dating along. When we arrived at the event, I went around to network and take my own food. This guy was pretty pissed off and said something along the lines of
As a woman, you should be walking beside me and all, not walking around all over the place with me walking behind you. I mean if you walk behind me, it is fine because I am the guy but not the other way round.
Studies have shown that times and attitudes of men are rapidly changing. Based on a recent research on more than 12,000 profiles on a dating website , it was found that the top three qualities men look for in order of preference vacation rentals near galveston texas were sweet, ambitious and thoughtful. That s right. Ambitious.
A separate research published in the Journal of Family Issues in 2013: Measuring Mate Preferences: A Replication and Extension supports this with men rating education and intelligence as the top four qualities they look for in a mate.
We live in a slightly more masculine corporate world (though vacation rentals near galveston texas things are slowly vacation rentals near galveston texas changing). To thrive at work, you need to display some traditional masculine kind of qualities like assertiveness, toughness competitiveness vacation rentals near galveston texas and even sometimes when you have no choice, ruthlessness to your enemies. In this age of social media where personal branding is exceptionally crucial, one also needs the courage and confidence vacation rentals near galveston texas to showcase their abilities to the world. This is something that many women are not accustomed to doing.
However, while traits like being achievement-oriented are highly valued for men, women who possess vacation rentals near galveston texas these traits or who succeed at Male Gender-typed tasks such as business, IT and politics are viewed vacation rentals near galveston texas negatively and disliked.
vacation rentals near galveston texas Many smart and ambitious women fail to emphasize these 'feminine' traits and end up feeling puzzled when a guy ends up dating another vacation rentals near galveston texas woman who isn t nearly as attractive, successful, or impressive as they are.
When a man goes out with a woman, he s not as concerned with whether she s articulate and on track to make partner at the law firm. Some things matter more like caring, showing appreciation regularly, giving compliments and even asking for help.
Men attached a part of their identity in the relationship to being needed by a woman . It brings a sense of purpose in a relationship. With the new age of independence in which a woman doesn t truly need a man, this causes guys to feel less desired and masculine.
This year when I started having a boyfriend, my primary concern was that I would not have enough time for the relationship. Two of us were people who cared about quality time but I was so busy with my competition, blogging, creatives for causes, school work etc.
In this way, not only can I spend time on both my online business and boyfriend, I could also reach out to new types of clients in the travel and F B industry as compared to my usual beauty products and retail advertisers.
We only have 24 hours in a day. If you have multiple goals, you need to make time for them. There will always be enough time, you just need to constantly ensure that you use each hour and minute efficiently.
When you connect with people vacation rentals near galveston texas professionally like in a job interview or networking session, very often you have to talk about your accomplishments, vacation rentals near galveston texas your goals and what you do. However, for a partner to hear about that so frequently, there can be two outcomes.
If he is the competitive sort, you accomplishments upset him and make him feel inferior. This is especially so if he is the type with low self-esteem for instance basing his self-worth on his accomplishments.
I once dated a guy who I would share everything with like which news reports I appeared in, when I was going to television to talk about elderly vacation rentals near galveston texas policy, which clients I secured and how there were 300 likes on my public policy commentaries.
Then, the inferiority complex led to resentment and he started calling me shallow and that I didn t deserve the recognition vacation rentals near galveston texas I was getting. He stopped liking stuff related to my accomplishments on Facebook and never showed up or wished me all the best for speeches, speaking at forums etc.
However, to mitigate clashes with your partner vacation rentals near galveston texas s ego, perhaps you can talk about work less. After all, unless you have no life, studies /career goals are only one part of you. There are so many other things you can talk about.
If you are a woman who is both pretty and smart, chances are you will get a lot of male attention. Most guys can feel quite insecure about this because they fear losing their partners. Some also think it is a big disrespect to them if other people flirt with or try to hit on their partners.
It is the simple things like talking with these fans less, responding in a professional/cordial rather than flirty manner or not intentionally leading them on so you can feel good about yourself. After all, a woman who is truly good and of high quality doesn't need all these constant external reinforcements from men outside vacation rentals near galveston texas the relationship to feel attractive.
I would think there are many other challenges vacation rentals near galveston texas that smart and successful women face which I have not elaborated in this post like being able to differentiate men who like them for their trophy-ness and others really loves them for who they are.
While there are some obstacles here and there, I believe vacation rentals near galveston texas ultimately that while society is designed in a certain way which may take a while to change. During this period, instead of complaining, what an individual can do is exercise some control vacation rentals near galveston texas over their own lives and personal responsibility by finding the loopholes and how to navigate circumstances.
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Agreed. That s the first thing that struck me about the situation. vacation rentals near galveston texas Although I might be wrong as I don t know the full account of what happened. Not everyone is able to flourish in an environment with so many people around. vacation rentals near galveston texas As an introvert, I d be mad if my partner wanted me to come along, but once there, completely forgets about me. Having said that, a man (or woman) should also be emotionally aware enough to realise that this was the case, and that its not about walking in front or behind that person. Delete Reply Anonymous 10 July 2014 at 01:24
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